August 5, 2017 Shimalumiere 2 comments.
Be daring, be different, be impractical. Be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers, the creatures of the commonplace, the slaves of the ordinary – “Cecil Beaton”
So today, I come to you minusing my usual long tale. Only, but with a simple yet gorgeous pair of swish stripe shorts and matching blazer. Corporate outfits for me, shouldn’t be solely for formal purposes, but should also be fun to wear especially when it’s a stripe. Just as almost every woman owns a little black dress, it’s probably a good idea for every woman/girl to own at least one piece of something stripe in her wardrobe.
I’m one of those people who would usually divert while on a journey, just to see if I’m able to discover other roads that lead to my destination. I like innovation, I like different. I would want to play safe by not using the hate word, but instead say, I don’t like what everyone likes. I like ‘unconventional’. I often dress in what I’m comfortable in and not what others think will make me comfortable. I mean, isn’t that how it should be?
Being un-apologetically you is the best thing that can happen to anyone. Why then try to fit in when you can stand out and be unique?
I used to be this girl who would always try to fit in by staying under the shadow of friends. I was never comfortable being alone. I never thought I had the ability to do things different from what all of my friends did. I would always try to impress them so they would like me. I was never poised enough to hang out with them. The only chance I’d get to mingle or hang out with them would probably be when we went out for dinner or when they knew they’d go somewhere and get into trouble. They would then carry me along so they could all blame it on me when they got caught!
I was called names that hurt my feelings but would ignore because I didn’t want to be portrayed as being weak. To add salt to injury, I was one very gangly looking girl, hence the abuse came easy. Did all of this make me insecure you ask? Oh heaven yes it did! This was my life in high school and during my preliminary studies.
Shortly before I got into university, I started modeling so I met & made a new set of friends completely different from the ones I had before. Even though I still had the traits of an insecure girl, it was barely noticeable in the way I acted.You’d think I was the most confident when I walked amongst them or when I made an entrance into a room. Gradually, I was beginning to shield my insecurities and instead, use them as though they were my strengths. Doing that occasionally made me realize how much strength and self-assurance I had by not being under anyone’s umbrella. I made sure I removed all the tags assigned to me.I figured I didn’t need validation from any of them to make me complete or feel competent. You can imagine how long it took me to begin to feel this way.
So dearies, it’s totally ok to be independent, to be different and do your thing, as long as you’re happy doing it. Standing alone made me see things with a different perspective. I now wake up every day, ensuring that I do everything possible to work rightly different.
I am slowly but surely becoming the she.E.O I have always wanted to be. (Grin) I styled my hair the way I’d be comfortable and not look razz yet have a classy aura, flattering that which I intend to portray. The style I feel still projects a well thought and put together sassy look. Often when I dressed, I would go out thinking this is the worst thing anybody can throw on, but its usually completely the opposite. You know how I know? The compliments I get. I just smile and say to myself: Shima, you’ve pulled off yet another stunt that has got people thinking & smiling. I pat myself on the back and say job well done.
Be you, do you for you. Eventually, they will follow. Amidst everything, promote yourself until it pays off. They will either get mad and delete or get inspired and support. Ain’t nothing wrong with feeling yourself.
Always make ur presence larger than life.
I hope this piece helps you to gather ur momentum. Until my next, thanks for stopping by.